Monday, August 10, 2009


Sunday morning, a large group of Brant's toys enjoyed their last playtime for a while. Then they rested on Maren's bedroom floor during the entire time the family was at church. Upon arriving home, Brant was told he had fifteen minutes to pick up his toys and throw them in a bin or they were going to be put away for a while in the closet. The fifteen minutes passed with several reminders and encouragement. Maren even gave specific directions on how to pick up a toy and put it in a bucket. The kitchen timer finally beeped. One lonely toy made it into the bucket. The rest were all gathered in a trash bag and stuck in the closet. Brant was so sad to watch his toys go on vacation. He cried for a long time. A few hours later, however, he seemed to forget about them completely. As he earns back his favorites over time, the family will most likely use the opportunity to truly get rid of the ones he's forgotten about.

Brant went down for a nap shortly after his crying episode, but only after Laurel offered to say a prayer for him. It was sweet and concluded with "Please help Brant to be a fast cleaner like me." Brant really liked it.

Maren feels like she made progress in this episode also. She stayed calm through the whole thing.

Brant and Laurel made huge strides at church today (at least during sacrament meeting). Brant left his goodie bag in the van, and Maren refused to let him go back and get it as the crew was already a couple minutes late. She found him a few play things in her church bag. It turns out fewer toys equals a calmer child.

In conclusion, Maren felt yesterday that she was progressing on the learning curve of parenthood. But in 2 short months, she has to jump to a whole new curve. As long as she doesn't move too far backward, she'll be happy.


Lauren said...

Great minds think alike! We've done the trashbag of toys lately as well. I haven't thrown anything away though. Cassidy forgets about it for a while, but as soon as I throw it away, she'll remember!

Good luck--now and after your two months are up.

museumeg said...

That's smart! I am going to remember that for later. And you're going to do great in two months!

Jeni said...

At least you only put them away for a while. My bro-in-law throws them in the garbage. His kids remember that and are the BEST cleaners ever!

AmyB said...

i have done the same thing. on occasion if the kids are playing and not picking up I walk into the room with a trash bag and they scurry to clean it up. I usually don't say anything and they get it done very quickly. I also find that fewer toys at church is better Actually my kids will probably tell you I am the meanest mom the in the world. they are only allowed a notebook and some crayons to share. No much nicer!

Jessica said...

I need to do the trashbag trick. Let us know the long term effects.

Oh, and my kids bring nothing to church now, not even a book or crayons, and it is so much more peaceful. Not sure how that will work when Ethan is a little bigger and needs a bit of entertaining, but for now, no toys or snacks or coloring allowed! :)