Monday, July 16, 2007

MOTHER AND FATHER DECLARE WAR

In heated battle Sunday night, Laurel Cupit masterfully executed bedtime stall tactics used by children throughout the ages. Laurel's arsenal includes, "I need to go potty." She also says, "No dinosaurs...no tigers." Laurel feigns fear and insists that Mother and Father look behind the bed for any scary beings. Sunday night (trash night), Laurel can also use her "No thunder, Mommy" trick. She hears the trash cans from the neighbor's house coming down the driveway to the curb. Laurel has been told time and again that this is only a trashcan. She has even been shown how to look out of the blinds and watch the trashcan going down to the street. About this time Laurel develops an unquenchable thirst, followed shortly by another trip to the potty. This time the potty trip usually proves fruitful. Next Laurel finds something that doesn't belong in her room or that she just wants to give to Mommy. She either stands at her door or comes searching through the house, "Here, Mommy..." Sometimes, after the second or third tuck-in, Laurel tries this one: "I awake, Mommy" - as if she has taken her nap and is ready to go play now. Eventually, Mommy and/or Daddy get frustrated, call the "last tuck-in and last kiss." At this point, Daddy takes over solo. Laurel executes another play, Daddy enters the room. Laurel instantaneously cries. Not just a whimper, but the nostrils flaring, alligator tears, can't control her breathing cry. "I want Mommy...one kiss...one kiss...one kiss!" One kiss was a retaliation tactic designed by Daddy to win prior bedtime battles. Daddy would tell Laurel, "Stop crying right now and Mommy will come give you one kiss and THAT'S IT." At which point, Mommy enters the room, gives one kiss (no talking) and exits the room. That was working for quite a while, but little Laurel is a wily one. She has figured out that if you can't go straight to goal "D" then start with A (an easy request), push to B, on to C, and before you know it you've reached D!!!

So tonight, Mommy and Daddy begin the Supernanny theory of no eye contact and no talking. We will enter the room, put Laurel back in bed and leave. Mother and Father are prepared for tears, even an all out resistance, but they pledge to hold steady to the course. The battle is set to begin no later than 8 o'clock tonight. Stay tuned in future posts to read about the outcome.

7 comments:

Kathy said...

Wow sounds like fun. you guys are so strong. We just let Emma sleep in our bed because she wakes up Spencer with all her screaming. Have fun.

Lexi, Troy and Peyton: said...

Oh my goodness. Good luck tonight guys! Peyton already tries to assert the battle of wills and he's only 4 1/2 months old. I can't imagine it when they're vocal! Just remeber to follow through and she'll probably get it in a few nights. Best of luck.

Cathi said...

That sounds very familiar - we go through that with Ainsly almost every night too. Except instead of asking for a kiss Ainsly asks for "pray pray". And how can we say no to her wanting to pray? (even if it is the 12th prayer that night!)

Stacy Hutchinson said...

Okay, Here's our nightly routine.
1.daddy gives bath
2.daddy puts on his pj.s
3.mommy reads 3 to 5 books
4.mommy starts the prayer and patiently waits until Ayden blesses everything in the room. (daddy is not allowed to do #s 3 and 4)
5.a debate on why Ayden can only have water. Not juice, not milk. He's already brushed his teeth.
6.Mommy turns out the light and assures him that she is also going to bed (which is a lie, and he knows it.) Then there is peace. Ahh...
7.(Number 7 only happens sometimes)He opens his door and stands there until daddy tells him sternly to get back in bed

Crabtree Family said...

Good luck!! Stand your ground and I promise it will pay off. Benjamin who I took care of used to do this too. It takes a couple of nights, but then it will be easier. The one problem...trips throw the whole thing off.

jessica and bart said...

Brennan has been pretty good about just going to bed...then we moved to Nebraska, where it stays light out until about 10 p.m. He fights us like a wild man. "No, mommy, it is not bed time...it is not dark outside." is his big arguement, but we stand our ground and make him go to bed. What he does once that door is shut is his business. I never question how Jackson wound up with five quilts in his bed, or how all the books managed to get from the bookshelf to Brennan's bed during the midnight hours, or any other crazy thing that happens after that. As long as there is no crying from either boy and no loud noises, I let them be (at least for a little while...if it starts getting too late, they do get repremanded)

Nicole said...

You gotta put one of those things on the door so she can't open it or better yet, turn the knob around and lock it from the outside. We just stopped responding and Lia gave up. Good luck!